It’s one of the most stereotypical situations you’ll ever have to think about: you want to watch one thing and your lady wants to watch a different thing. Who wins? Usually when we see this played out in the media it’s some bro-fisted guy grunting over some large chested woman who insists that watching The Notebook for the zillionth time is way better than watching whatever game is playing at the moment. Then you have a list of “top ten ways to get her to watch your favorite sport!”
It’s a boring stereotype because, let’s face it: there are plenty of ladies out there who love sports and who (and don’t let those bros out there hear this) know more about them than we do. Moreover, if it means we’ll have a better night later on, we’d more than happily surrender that remote and let her cry her face off over Ryan Gosling doing…whatever it is he does in that movie that makes everyone cry. Plus, now that you can get a DVR included with most cable and DIRECT TV deals you can just record that game and watch it together later.
Seriously. We don’t get it.
What’s really at stake here isn’t which gender wants to watch what. What’s at stake here is that you want to watch one thing and she wants to watch another. How do you deal with this so that you can both go to bed happy?
Divide and Conquer
The simplest way to let everybody watch what they want to watch is to park one of you in front of the TV in one room and the other of you in front of the TV in another room. You both get to watch what you want to watch without the other interrupting or sighing or other less awesome behaviors all the way through the program.
But what if the idea is to hang out together and experience something at the same time?
Use Technology to Your Advantage
Picture in picture is available in most televisions and cable/satellite boxes. This is one way to let you both watch what you want on the big screen.
Another way to accomplish this goal is to hang out together on the couch but watch your chosen programming via your tablets or laptops. Streaming services have apps that work on most mobile and computing devices. More importantly, most television providers have some sort of app as well, that lets you access live broadcasts via your device of choice. You can both plug in your ear buds, settle into your respective couch corners and watch whatever you want while still enjoying each other’s company.
The Ultimate Compromise
But what if…and stick with us here…what if you want to share the same event, not just the same space. You want to curl up together and watch something together at the same time. She wants to keep tabs on her NFL fantasy football line. You want to watch Gotham. One of you has to give in, right? So who loses and who wins?
There are two things to do here. You can take turns and trade off each week. Alternatively, you can both decide to give in and choose something else to watch together that you can both agree on.
There are likely guys out there coughing “wuss!” into their hands right now. But guess what. When you work hard to keep your lady happy, you get to keep your lady. You’ll get a lot further if you’re reasonable about this. Bro-ing out and getting all uptight about winning all the time and insisting on total control over the remote will only send you to bed alone. Forever. And where’s the fun in that?